There is a motto that I say to myself at the beginning of the day. “Hello today, what happened yesterday is gone and what will happen today is up to me; so, choose peace, choose love, and choose excellence.” When you choose peace, you are choosing not to get involved in the negative energy of the day. When you choose to love you forgive quickly and look for a way to bless the people around you. When you choose excellence, you make the decision to go above and beyond, to give the day you’re very best, not just the minimum. So, if you haven’t already… say hello to today and be blessed! Selah
Do you need examples of how to apply forgivness to various situations? Well thank goodness Psychology Today thought of some, Enjoy and let me know how your forgivness journey is going! Selah
Here’s how forgiveness can work in a range of situations where you’d have every right to be angry. It establishes a kinder mindset whether or not you decide to confront someone.
- A good friend acts inconsiderately when she’s having a bad day.Remember, nobody’s perfect. You may want to let the incident slide. If you do mention it, don’t make this one-time slight into a big deal. Give your friend a break–forgive the lapse.
- A coworker takes credit for your ideas. Do damage control, whether it means mentioning this situation to the coworker, your boss, or Human Resources, and don’t trust her with ideas in the future. However, try to forgive the coworker for being such a greedy, insecure, mean-spirited person that she has to stoop so low as to steal from you.
- Your mother-in-law is needy or demanding. Keep setting kind but firm boundaries so over time you can reach palatable compromises. But also have mercy on the insecurities beneath her neediness and demands–perhaps fear of being alone, of aging, of being excluded from the family, of not being heard. This will soften your response to her.
- You suffered childhood abuse. The healing process of recovering from abuse requires enormous compassion for yourself and is facilitated by support from other abuse survivors, family, friends, or a therapist. Still, if you feel ready to work towards forgiveness of an abuser, it necessitates seeing the brokenness and suffering that would make the person want to commit such grievous harm. You’re not excusing the behavior or returning to it, but grasping how emotionally crippled he or she is, a huge stretch of compassion, but the path to freedom.
We have all had times where inside the Holy Spirit said “NO… Speak UP… Don’t do that …. Don’t go there” but do we listen to that voice? This year I have learned to value the God in me. What do I mean by that? It means I am not just going to go along with things anymore just to make the people around me more comfortable. It means I will no longer hold my tongue when everything in me says “ Speak UP.” These things may sound easy for you to do, but for me, it has been a process. In the name of “protecting others feelings,” I dimmed the light God game me to shine. So now I honor the voice God gave me by using it. Selah. #SLiM
Ok, ladies and gents, by now you should be looking forward to your moment of positivity, light, and rejuvenation. God says in His word that above all He wishes that you prosper and be in good health. Do you know that stress and worry can negatively affect your health? Today give your mind some medicine, take a moment away from the clutter of the day and find Gods peace, so that you too can prosper and live the life God intended for you. Selah #SLiM
Here we go again, how you gained peace, closure, and restoration from learning how to forgive. well here is the next step… Enjoy!
It’s that time again! Here is the third step in forgiveness, let me know how your Journey is going!
To experience forgiveness, try this exercise from Psychology Today:
Begin to forgive. Hold the person you’re angry with clearly in your mind. Then ask yourself, “What emotional shortcomings caused him or her to treat me poorly?” This is what you want to have compassion for, the area to forgive. Definitely, don’t subject yourself to shabby treatment, but reach for compassion for the person’s emotional blindness or cold heart.
One of the most interesting things I have learned from being a pastor and a CEO is that everyone is not going to like you or accept your help. Your heart and desire could be to save the world and bring everyone with you but that simply isn’t how life is. Even the word of God says that the poor will be with you always, meaning that there are people who will not want better for themselves, work hard, or appreciate the opportunity you give them. And THAT’S OK, people of God we have to remember our daily job is to simply be a light that shows Gods love. A light… not the raft, or evacuating airplane. Be the best you, shine Gods light on your job, home and community, then leave the rest up to God. Trust me, He’s big enough to handle it! Selah.
Sometimes the beginning of the week can be the most hectic. We have lists in our minds, paper on our desks, and people to put up with on our jobs. At this moment, and in this space you have an opportunity to relax your mind and your anxieties. Choose to have 30 minutes of peace right now! The work, todos, and people will still be there when you’re done I’m sure of it. But when you choose to have mental health, you offer your “best self” to the day. After refreshing your mind and spirit, the rest of the day is forced to get into alignment with the standard of peace you have presented to yourself. Check out this clip from Dr. Beckwith and let me know what you think! Selah #SLiM
Alright, family and friends its time to close your eyes, thoughts, and anxiety and learn how to channel Gods uncomparable peace into your life. We all have good days and bad days, but guess what… you can learn how to turn those bad days into good ones. It’s called having a healthy perspective. Did you know that you can learn to give your thoughts, fears, and worries to God? God wants to hear your concerns but you have to be still, talk, then listen. Check out this powerful segment from Dr. Beckwith. Selah #SLiM
I love the topic of forgiveness because it truly is a topic of freedom. How can an individual be free from an event or painful happening in their life? One answer I found was through a psychology class and the answers aligned up with the word of God. I am going to introduce one step at a time and id like you to join me on this courageous journey. Each week we are going to take another step words the freedom of forgiveness. Enjoy these topics from Psychology today and let me know what you think!
To experience forgiveness, try this exercise from Psychology Today:
Emotional Action Step. Be Bigger Than Anger–Practice Forgiveness Now
- Identify one person you’re angry with. Start with someone low on your list, not your rage-aholic father. Then you can get a taste of forgiveness quickly. After that, you can proceed to tackle more challenging targets.